Welcome to Day 3 of the Surviving Your Split Love Your challenge!
One of the things that annoy me the most about Valentine’s Day is it only celebrates romantic love.
And while there is a time and a place for romantic love, I think our society downplays all the other types of love out there that can make us happy and fulfilled—even when we’re recovering from a painful divorce, feel lonely, and are feeling stuck.
Here’s your challenge for the day.
Write a love letter to 3 incredible women in your life who changed you for the better.
It can be a good friend, a teacher, your mother, aunt, sister, hair stylist, therapist, or the female doctor who found the suspicious lump early and saved your life.
It doesn’t matter her status. And it doesn’t matter how long the letter is. It can be as simple as sending a text message to her. Or an email. Or finding a beautiful card at the groceries store. Or actually getting out some lovely stationery and composing an old-school (my favorite!) letter.
All that matters is you thank her for what she did for you. And she influenced you in a positive way.
I’m gonna list mine here, because I’m doing this right alongside you.
Mrs. Bedard, my high school sophomore English teacher. She was this high-powered corporate accountant who left her toxic job to pursue who love for teaching and writing. She really inspired me with the written word and the healing power of words, and I’ve been grateful for that ever since.
Sergeant Kim Cox, my bad-ass Army platoon leader. This woman, although she wasn’t much older than me at the time (gawwwwwd we were in our early 20s and freakin’ babies in the Army), she was the *only* person who fought for me when I had a terrible spinal injury that ended my Army career. She argued with dismissive Army male leadership when I needed to see a doctor, threatened them with Inspector General investigations if they didn’t authorize my emergency surgery, and hounded them to make sure I got the physical therapy and after-care I needed so I could just focus on healing. I have no idea what would have happened to me had she not been there fighting for me.
Dr. Jean, my incredible therapist who was there when I needed her most. Although she’s b
een retired for years, it was Dr. Jean who helped me work through some of the PTSD issues I still struggled with years after leaving the Army. And she was the one who helped me navigate the emotional apocalypse that was my failing marriage, as well as help me cope with all of the emotional stuff during my divorce and afterwards. She also inspired me to pay it forward, and was one of the motivating factors for why I became a divorce recovery coach. I’m grateful to her for that—she helped me find my calling, which is getting to work with incredible women like you every day! 🙂
Now it’s your turn!
Hit “reply” to this email and let me know the 3 women you’ll be writing a love letter to! Remember—readers who complete all three challenges and let me know will be entered into a contest to win an awesome prize.
Looking forward to hearing about the incredible women you’re writing a letter to!
Talk to you tomorrow!
Warmly,
Martha
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