This blog post comes from our friend Noemi over at 2Seniors and it talks about something we all want to find…love. For more information on entering the world of dating again as a divorcee over 50, head on over to the site and sign up!
How to Find Love Again When You’re a Divorcee Over 50
Finding love after a divorce is often difficult. Heartbreak, anger, disillusion or other negative feelings might have invaded your mind like unwanted guests. Lots of questions and a bunch of doubts might be spinning round in your mind. Will I be able to trust someone again after what I went through? Will I find love again? What is it like dating today? Indeed, when you are over 50, your last date might have been a long time ago, maybe even in your twenties or thirties. That makes the whole situation even harder.
Stop. Breathe. You can find love again after 50! In fact, many people do!
Today, lots of couples make the decision to split after the age of 50 or 60 to start a brand-new life. Divorcing once the kids leave home is far from being rare, so don’t worry, you are certainly not alone in all this. Other people – let’s say, men – are looking for someone to share their life with too!
Are you ready to find love?
After a divorce it’s important to ask yourself the right questions, to know if you are ready to start dating and eventually to find love.
If you miss having a partner, someone you would cherish, someone you would have dinner with every day, someone you would go to the cinema with or if you are simply missing physical contact, then it might just be time to start dating again.
However, if you are happy to be single and you enjoy your independence, if you want to travel solo or have time for yourself, or if just the thought of being with a man again tires you out, it’s probably best to give dating a miss for now.
Everyone is different, so think about what you want and don’t give too much thought to what others say you should do.
Take time to recover
You are not in a rush. Healing after a divorce is necessary. You don’t have to try to start a new relationship right away. It’s important that you take time just for yourself. Be single for a while!
Also, don’t look for a replacement. You need to mourn your ex relationship before meeting other men. It could be a question of months or even years, but it’s a necessary process to help you to avoid making the same mistakes again.
Before starting a new life with someone, you’ll have to leave resentment and anger behind you. Trusting others again might take time. You need to be at peace with yourself first.
Now that you are divorced, it’s all about you. Take time to learn to believe in yourself and your ability to charm. Recover at your own speed. Talking helps you cope too, so share your feelings with your friends or family whenever you can.
Do things that make you feel good: visit a city or a country you’ve always wanted to go to, relax in a spa, refresh your wardrobe, go get a new haircut… Treat yourself like a queen, make yourself feel beautiful and take pleasure in doing so! To find love and attract people you have to love yourself first, right?
Get out in the world and date!
If you feel ready to start a relationship, it’s time to get out in the world and date! Be proactive, love won’t fall from the sky. You’ll have to be a bit adventurous to find it by yourself. Besides, there are plenty of places for meeting men over 50. Pick the way that suits you most. There is no obligation to go on blind dates if that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Online dating is a good approach to finding love. On the internet, you’ll encounter plenty of other people who are looking for someone too. Additionally, searching from the comfort of your own home can be reassuring, even more so for the timid ones among us. To improve your odds, you need to choose a dating website that corresponds to your needs; a dating website for people over 50 looking for a relationship, just like you. Once you have registered, it’s time to look for profiles that might match… and then date!
You have a passion or a hobby? Be social, go out and share your passion with other people. You could for instance join a club or an association. It’s more fun to share and talk with others. Moreover, you could meet someone who loves the same things as you!
You love dancing, singing or acting but you never took the time to do it? It’s the moment to start. Enroll in a class you like. You might meet interesting people – maybe even someone who could become your special one!
Other ideas to meet people include attending events for singles over 50, going on an organized trip with people of your age or volunteering. Think of your circle of friends too. They might know someone who is perfect for you!
Relax and have fun
So, you met a guy but finally it didn’t work out as you’d hoped? Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. It’s okay, it takes time to find love. If you’re doing online dating, meet several dates as this will increase your chances of finding the right one. Be patient. Continue to go to your dance or theatre classes, see your friends as often as possible and participate in blind dates if this is something that you enjoy. Don’t be afraid to expand your opportunities!
Tired of dating? Have a break. Only do it if this is really what you want.
You might not find love right away but the people you’re going to meet could become good friends and introduce you to others who could, in turn, introduce you to someone special. You never know!
Remember the most important thing: don’t forget to have fun! Consider dating as a chance to enjoy yourself and discover new experiences.